"On Wednesday, August 19th, 2009 I had a doctor’s appointment to find out the sex of our third child. Ryan met me at the doctor’s office and we went right in to get the ultrasound. Everything looked so good, except I noticed a big black circle on the ultrasound screen. I asked the nurse nonchalantly what that was, and she said …“I don’t know” I asked the tech if it was normal and she said no. It was then, that my world started to crumble around me. I knew something was wrong, but to what extent I wasn’t sure.
After the tech was done, I was sent to see my OB. He sat me down in the exam room and told me that he didn’t know exactly what this was, but that it was going significantly affect this pregnancy. My doctor was immediately on the phone with a specialist and I was scheduled to see him two days later.
We went Friday to see the specialist and he sat us down and he said that our situation was grave and that the condition our baby had was incompatible with life. He told us that the urethra didn’t develop properly, and because of it the bladder wasn’t draining properly causing there to be no amniotic fluid around the baby.
He told us we had a few options, one being an experimental surgery but my baby’s kidneys had to look good. So the next step was to test the kidneys, and the tests came back inconclusive. One said they were damaged and the other test said they were ok. Because the tests were inconclusive we weren’t sure if surgery was the right route.
So we were left with options that pained my heart. We could give the surgery a shot but he didn’t recommend it or we could do a do a D&C, or wait until our baby passed on his own, or we could go to the hospital and be induced.
We went to the temple to find some clarity and peace on what we were supposed to do. When I walked into those temple doors I knew that I was supposed to say goodbye and the only way I could see was being induced.
I went in at 8:00 am on August 30th thinking I would be there for a few days but my sweet Skyler was born sleeping at 7:38 p.m that night. It was a very painful day, both physically and emotionally.
Both mine and Ryan’s family were all there at the hospital when Skyler was born and I am grateful for the love and support that I felt from all of our family. I felt that same support when they were there making diapers in honor of Skyler’s 5th angel birthday." ~Abby Graham, angel mother to Skyler Jack Graham
Please read this entire page before embarking on a hat-making project!
Stockinette tubing, in desired size,
small, clear hair elastics (optional)
measure tape/ruler embellishments (OPTIONAL, NOT REQUIRED AT ALL, we recommend against embellishments for large groups)
fabric glue (if adding embellishments)
First cut your stockinette to the required length (See below).* If cut too short, the hats will be unusable. Please make sure to cut accurately.*
*Cutting guideline for different sizes:
2” width- cut 8” this size will fit 14-17 week babies (small mini-blankets)
3" width - cut 11" and will fit 17 - 23 week babies (for small Teeny Tears diapers, layettes and large mini-blanket sets)
4" width - cut 16" and will fit 24 - 32 week babies (matches large Teeny Tears diapers and layettes.)
Fold cut stockinette piece in half, insert thumb into one side of folded stockinette, hold other side with other fingers.
With opposite hand grab folded edge where thumb is placed and pull it over to the opposite side where other fingers are. Fold Like you are folding a pair of socks. Pull raw edges together and even out.
You should have a raw edge and one that is finished off like pictured to the right.
Next turn hat upright and gather the fabric at the top of hat. Secure with clear small hair elastic. Please do not use colored elastics or loom bands. (Alternatively, you can use a clothespin to hold the fabric together before ribboning instead of using clear elastics!)
***Please remember to donate 2 identically matching hats per family so that one may stay with the baby and the other may be kept by the family in a memory box.
All done! So cute!
Ordering information for stockinette
Claflin is the best source we have for orders over $100. We've arranged a discount with them for Teeny Tears volunteers, their price per box with this discount is the best we have. For bulk orders, please contact email@example.com for ordering assistance and special pricing. (When ordering in bulk quantity, it is recommended to make your order at least one month before your event.)
Mountainside Medical offers very competitive prices on the stockinette. They are currently the least expensive option for smaller orders of stockinette ($6.25 for 2”, $8.10 for 3”, and $10.25 for 4”, per box of 25 yards). They have reasonable shipping rates. You can order online at http://www.mountainside-medical.com/cotton-tubular-stockinette-non-sterile.html Please keep in mind when ordering stockinette in cotton the color is beige, in synthetic it is white. (The Teeny Tears headquarters team has a preference for white stockinette. It is easier to match up with existing clothing donations and the fabric is just as soft as the cotton). Please put "Teeny Tears" in the company field of the order form.
ProMed offers a discount for Teeny Tears Volunteers on all stockinette with no minimum purchase. Orders can be placed via email or over the phone. Their customer service is excellent. They offer white, beige, pink or blue stockinette in lengths of 25 yards or 50 yards. They charge shipping based on weight and distance and only charge you what it will cost them to ship it to you. Email firstname.lastname@example.org for ProMed's price list and contact information.